How to persist in the face of adversity
I would be lying if I told you my life is perfect. I would be lying if I told you that I never get tired, discouraged or weak. I would be lying if I told you that I never feel fear or deal with feelings of doubt. However, the difference between me and others who don’t reach their full potential is I don’t allow these challenging moments, discouraging days and heartfelt emotions to paralyze me. I may have a down moment, a day or even a week but I do my best to move past it and I don’t stay stuck in defeat. Let me be clear in saying that I have not always been this way and I am still a work in progress. It has taken countless days of me training my mind, body and spirit to persist in the face of adversity; to keep going when it makes more sense to a logical person to stop. I have learned to respect the process and I want to share with you 5 ways I have learned to persist in the face of adversity.
1. Pray, pray, pray and when you get tired, fall to your knees and pray some more. Prayer is your lifeline and many people underestimate the power of prayer. In a world where many people google, take a poll on Facebook and ask 10 people their opinion before going to God in prayer is insane. I used to do the same thing until I realized that after all of that in addition to still not having an answer, I succumbed to unnecessary stress and anxiety by listening to other people before going to my father in prayer. Philippians 4:6 says ” Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving present your requests to God”. Never stop praying. Even if you have prayed about something 100 times, let today be the 101 time you pray. Although God may not always answer the prayer how you want him to, he hears your prayers and always knows what is best for you. Your job is to pray and allow him to do the rest.
2. Exercise 3 to 5 times a week. There is a direct correlation between exercise and our mental, emotional, and spiritual health. The more you exercise, the better you feel. There were many times in my life that exercise improved my mood and even helped me process my circumstances better. The next time you are having a frustrating day, try going for a walk/run, doing some yoga or lifting some weights. It is better to take your frustrations out this way rather then on people whom you love.
3. Help others. At the times in my life where I felt the saddest or the most discouraged, I still did my best to help others. Whether that meant volunteering my time at a church function, giving to the homeless, mentoring someone in need or even paying it forward at Starbucks, I did it. No matter how bad you feel, when you still find it in your heart to bless someone else, there is something in you that becomes rejuvenated. You may not feel it right away but I guarantee you that sooner or later you will. The next time that you feel like all hope is lost in your life, pay it forward or help someone else who feels that all hope is lost in theirs.
4. Forgive. This is not always easy but forgiveness is essential to not just survive but thrive in life. Learn to not only forgive others who have wronged you but learn to forgive yourself. I struggled with this concept for quite some time. I had no problem forgiving others but I tended to beat myself up about my own mistakes. What I didn’t realize was every time I did that, I was taking away the power that God had given me to walk into my destiny. Whatever mistakes you made, no matter how big they are, God has forgiven you. The only thing you need to do is ask him for forgiveness. 1 John 1:9 says , ” If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” I encourage you to forgive others but even more importantly, forgive yourself.
5. Live! That’s right. Live! Have fun and let your hair down sometimes. It is good to have goals, plans and deadlines but don’t forget to live and enjoy life in the process. Even in the face of adversity, find something to laugh about. Laughter is the best medicine and is good for your soul.
I pray that as I shared a piece of my heart that something resonated with you to help you persist in the face of adversity. You aren’t alone and just know that my prayers are with you!
You got this because Gods got you!
Your Health and Spiritual Fitness Coach
Summer Haggins, Warrior Princess Founder